The Many Faces of Caregiving

By Carl A. Trapani, MA, MS, LPC, Chippewa Manor Campus Chaplain

We’re all caregivers, whether we realize it or not. Caregiving isn’t just a job or a title; it’s part of being human. From the moment we enter this world, someone is caring for us — feeding us, teaching us, reminding us of where we left our shoes (and later in life, our glasses). At every age and stage, caregiving changes its shape, but it never disappears. It’s the great circle of compassion that keeps families, communities, and friendships alive.

Birth to Toddlers: When we were infants, someone got up at 2 a.m. to feed us, rock us, change us, and do everything they could to maintain our comfort. It was non-stop caregiving 24/7 – 365 days a year.  And let’s be honest, with all our demands, we never said, “Thank you.” Not even once!  

Children and Teens: As we grew, parents, teachers, and neighbors cared for us by guiding, correcting, and occasionally grounding us. Our caregivers often said, “You’ll thank me someday,” and we thanklessly replied: “No, I won’t!”  But time passes, and the caring wisdom and skills of our caretakers has proven true.  As we get older, we often wish we could thank them and tap into their well of wisdom.  

Adults: In adulthood, caring transitions into a different perspective - taking care of others. We care for children, spouses, coworkers, and friends. We bring casseroles to the sick, mow an elderly neighbor’s lawn, or listen to someone’s worries over a cup of coffee. We no longer regard caregiving as “heroic sacrifice” but more like simply showing up and being available.

The Elderly Years: As we age, caregiving often comes full circle. We may find ourselves truly entering a “second childhood”, depending on the kindness, patience, and care of others.  It can be humbling to need help — but it’s also beautiful to see love returned in new ways. One senior joked, “I used to call my daughter ten times a day to check on her while I was at work. Now she calls ten times a day to make sure I took my pills!”

The Heart of the Matter

Caregiving isn’t just something we do; it’s who we are. It’s humanity at its best — people helping people, giving love in practical ways. When we’re young, we receive care. When we’re strong, we give it.  When we’re older, we learn to accept it again — sometimes reluctantly, sometimes with grace. That’s wisdom. It’s the rhythm of life God designed.

Caregiving is the story of us all — from cradle to cane.  We all take turns holding and being held, helping and being helped. It’s not about perfection, but participation in the great cycle of love that God set in motion. So, whether you’re rocking a baby, checking on a friend, or caring for someone who once cared for you — smile. You’re part of the divine heartbeat of humanity – all part of the many faces of caring that God intended us all to experience together.

Carl Trapani, MA, MS, LPC serves as campus Chaplain at Chippewa Manor. He has more than 50 years of pastoral service and professional counseling experience. For more information please call (715) 723-4437 or email him at carl.trapani@chippewamanor.com.